For me it wasn't about winning or losing - it was about living or dying.
Just like the post from Language of Letting Go - We are deserving of love.
Most of the time living with an active addict has no love. Leaving is about choosing a healthy environment for your mind, body, soul and spirit to grow, to nuture and to prosper.
It's not him winning and you losing - It's simply know when it's time to walk away because it is the most healthy and loving thing to do for everyone - especially yourself.
In my relationship with my HP, there is nothing that I give up to follow His guidance that He doesn't replace with something 10 x better - it may not be financial things, but it is usually serene things. For me, that means so much more.
Peace to you my friend. You are taking steps on a brave path - wishing you the courage and strength to let the past be the past and to embrace your beautiful new future.
HUGS,
Rita