My first thought was also, Nothing Changes if Nothing Changes.
It's almost like we as addicts are, we can find every excuse in
the book to use, she can find every excuse in the book to treat
you bad because she has a disorder, but what is the bottom line?
What is your bottom line?
For me? No one treats me with disrespect anymore, I don't allow it,
or I walk away...
When they do I take it out on myself, it interrupts my world, etc. etc. etc.
I don't care how close they are to me, or what the problem is.
If I am making excuses for them to treat me bad it becomes my
problem not theirs. I let myself become the victim.
I understand your dilemma with her daughter but on the flip side what
she sees? Is what you are teaching her.. So she is learning two things,
one that it is okay to treat people bad like that, and two that it is
okay to be treated bad.
Good for you for trying to get legal custody...
:ghug2
I can understand your confusion with boundaries, I was in
therapy for years because I let everyone cross my boundaries
and I didn't understand why I was always hurting....
It never made sense to me for the longest time.
Keep talking, etc.. Your doing great... and it's an
amazing thing your doing helping out your niece..
:ghug3