JMO I would not go to see her until she can be civil. The daughter is old enough to understand that the visits are not helpful. AH has been in prison for almost a year and I have yet to visit-I will not visit-I am not the reason he is there. He is in this 4th month of extensive rehab and thanks me for not visiting-made him realize he needed help. Maybe by your not visiting will make her realize she needs to get her act together.