Hey Angelus--
I am so glad the fallout from the writer wasn't harsh. Tuck that away in the memory bank for use before the next "dreaded" phone call!
Oooph, the timing of your friend's father's passing does make it hard for you emotionally. But you've responded and that's the decent human thing to do. You simply must be clear in your own mind about what kind of future relationship/contact you can have with your friend. It will never be what it was, right? You've changed! (yay for you!)
I read this the other day in the F&F of Substance Abusers forum - it brought me some peace of mind - maybe it'll help you too--
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ng-slumps.html
Peace,
B.