Heya bumtwo--
My husband is not that stupid
OK.
But he is not working with a sane clean brain like you are. All of our alcoholics/addicts are wonderful people, brilliant, loving, sweet, etc EXCEPT they are held hostage by their addiction. They "make" stupid decisions because of their addiction. They "stupidly" choose drugs or alcohol over people EVERY time. So, his intelligence or lack thereof has nothing to do with anything. This is a progressive disease, as you know, and they stop being able to keep track and keep it all together over time.
My question is what are YOU thinking? Wishing and praying that nothing happens until you get your masters doesn't make it so. It's dangerous. It's also kind of using him isn't it?
Not trying to be harsh, but the BEST and safest and most secure feeling in the world is when we face reality and own our own behavior/situation 100%. Because from there we have power to change the things we can. It won't be easy but it will be worth it.
peace,
B.