Blue - I bet this isn't the news you wanted to hear, but I have to agree with everyone else on this one. If you have any doubts whatsoever, you might want to postpone the wedding. Even if you have everything ordered and paid for, trust your gut on this. As someone who is now getting divorced 7 years later and two kids, I wish I had waited (or known back then that my STBXAH was actually an alcoholic). You are right to be scared. Don't dismiss this red flag that God has put right in your face. (((HUGS))) I know it's a very hard position to be in.