Hi drainedwife, You certainly have picked the right name. My heart goes out to you in this situation. I' haven't got any great words cause they have been spoken above.....Enjoy your vacation with your kids and enjoy your moms visit. That way you can center on people other then your hubby. When all thats done I'd sit down and think of what your going to do for YOU!! and the kids. Big hugs ~ Bonnie