What are your boundaries? Write them down....then think....what are the consequences? What are you going to accept? If he uses drugs, then what? If he uses my/our credit cards, then what? There has to be a consequence. He has to know the boundaries and the consequences. The boundary lines has to be clear. He will push them. DO not allow him. Your inner soul knows what is acceptable. The addict has pushed the line to the point there is no line. Of course it is your fault. NO sane, rational person would snort shi@t up their nose or push something into their vein.....unless they are addicts.... You are the one that he is looking at, fighting with, so he can say to himself.....screw it.....life is too bad, she's such a b@tch. It is his way to shift the focus off of himself and onto you. It sucks! You are right! BUT YOU are not an addict. You are the responsible one here. You are thinking correctly! SO what is your boundary? What are going to accept? Remember,....you have kids...If one of them came to you and said "MOM, my husband is on drugs, spending everything,......." what would you tell her/him? He is using.....He is not in recovery. Maybe, something will change WHEN something changes! And the only thing you can change,.....is yourself!
You are worth! DEEP BREATH.....DETACH and Think! :ghug