guilt is a very powerful codie emotion......and the addict/alcoholic knows it and will use it against us.
A's are like sharks, they can smell our vunerability.
Try to lose the guilt, he'll smell it.
There is no reason to feel guilt if you are taking care of your needs. He will either get with the program or he won't. It is HIS choice. But you have your own choices to make and you are doing it!!! That takes a lot of courage!
gentle hugs