hate so say it almost, but this realization of hers could end up being one of the best things ever not just for her but for me too.
With that one little sentence there you displayed enormous self examination! I can tell you that my son's intervention and treatment were the best things to happen to ME. Not that I'm happy that he has been struggling with this disease but that my eyes were opened. I experienced a self awakening that I believe was a direct result of his hardships.
Handing my son over to my HP (higher power.....whatever or whomever you choose him/her/it to be), has been important for my recovery. Realizing that I have no control over anyone but myself and learning to stop imposing my will on others. My recovery is a daily struggle to understand myself, my own motivations, and be content with myself.
Welcome to your journey........peace and serenity are the golden rings.
hugs