I know I suggested a specific ''addiction counsellor''. This is because my abf was referred to one when he began to seek recovery. I have also heard people here on SR talk about problems they have had with regular counsellors.
The general thing seems to be that these counsellors are not always fully aware of the multi facets of the addicted personality. People in active addiction are extremely manipulative, and will protect their habit as much as they can. I have seen spouses/partners here who have counsellors telling their partner that they can 'control' their drinking!!! Anyone involved with an A knows this is not possible!
IMHO, someone who specialises in this type of personality will be of greatest benefit to someone who is determined to recover.
May I ask, are you planning on taking steps to help yourself? I admire your commitment to your AH's recovery, but you need to focus on yourself too.
lily xxxxxxxxxx