JT,
That last part of your post is the one that scares me the MOST. I have been thru 2 already and am working on #3. The first 2 husbands came from alcoholic homes, one drank and one was a dry drunk. #3 has been in recovery for 20+ yrs (and to my credit, I HAVENT married this one yet
, so I'd like to think that after many yrs of working an al anon program, that my "picker" is getting better. Time will tell. I do know that Al Anon has taught me a to understand about boundaries, and enabling, etc etc. and that I have to continue to work MY program on a regular basis in order for ME to remain sane.
You and Jon and Ann and the others are such an inspiration to me. Thanks for your open and honest approach to life - warts and all.
HUGS
O59