kiki,
is the problem that someone you love needs an alternative to AA, or is the problem that you, yourself, need something to help you in this difficult time?
You have described a dependence on someone who, by your own admission, is unreliable, dishonest, and manipulative. that can't be easy for you to handle on your own. you might consider going to some al-anon meetings. you may not be able to help the person you love, all by yourself, but you can ALWAYS get the help you need by doing what you need to do for you. I don't know how it will turn out. no one can answer that for you. but, I do know that you can prosper regardless of anyone or anything. I know that from my own experience. I also know, from having relied on alcohol for years as a source of power, that alcoholics don't change unless the pain becomes great enough. probably not what you wanted to hear, right? you can still get better, though, even if he can't or won't.
John