No you are not overeacting at all!
I'm married to a functional alcoholic and it's crushing my spirit
Not alone with this comment-My spirit was crushed-I lost who I was and never
thought I would be happy....
Today with the help of Al-Anon, My HP, SR, counseling- I have become a happy person
again! I see and hear nature-which Is something I was never able to do among the
fear and chaos that surrounded me-
My father was an A and a Doctor (surgeon) and he was known to be a "functioning A" which IMHO really does not excuse the behavior and choice to drink and put others at risk. Money is material ....life is more important than that!
Keep posting and work on making that spirit of yours shine again!