Originally Posted by Janitw

Yes you did but I bet that when you said the words: "I do"....you did not mean that you would do it all........

Alcoholism is very demanding and taxing in that us codies can never do enough......as far as our alcoholic spouses feel anyway. I lived with my XAH for 22 years and its been almost 3 years since my discovery day concerning his affair and all of the drama that went with it....and looking back today. The best thing he did for us was to leave us. But in getting back to you....only YOU can say whats best for you hun. You will know when the time is right to leave it all behind. They say that when the pain of staying out weighs the pain of leaving then thats probably the right time. She will do just fine but she will have to go through an adjustment period and you may want to go no contact for the first year or so.

Good luck and glad you are back


Janitw