Welcome to SR!
Sorry that you are going through this right now-Prodigal said a lot! (Hard to follow that)
The stickies at the top of the forum are filled with a lot of information that you will
find valuable!
It took me a long time to see that placing all my energy on not only what the A's in
my life were not doing right-but others too. I finally realized that I need to start looking
at my life and what I WAS NOT DOING RIGHT!
I wasted a lot of energy and time on others-instead of placing the focus on me!
With the help of Al-Anon, Counseling, SR and most important my HP I have learned
how to live life for me today and know that I can only control
MY LIFE not anyone elses!
Glad you are here! Keep posting!