Thanks for sharing that. Excellent!
The only item in the list that I have some issues with is #6.
6. I will respond to attacks or accusations that have something to do with me. When they don't, I will refuse to engage in an angry discussion.
I have found that an alcoholic will often purposely try to make things about the codependent HOPING that they will engage in angry discussion. I won't engage in the conversation when the alcoholic is throwing out "bait". Things that they may say that ARE about the other person in the relationship to divert the attention from themselves.
Things like:
"I drink because of YOU."
Ok....they are trying to make it about me but I'm not going there.
"You're the one that made me take that job."
No I didn't. But there's no use in trying to tell an alcoholic that.
You get my drift. Those are also conversations that aren't a good idea to get involved with. They are not true and the only purpose mean comments directed at the codie serve is to get them to engage in battle. My RA son threw out some doozies when he was actively drinking. I found that it was best to just ignore them no matter how hurtful. My response would only further fuel the nonsense.
Thanks again for sharing that passage. Good info!