Recovey can happen
Tomorrow I drive to my 24 yr. old son's rehab for a 5 day family week. He has been there 14 weeks.
We read so many stories of despair, but today I am optimistic and hopeful that my son can recover. He recently sent me a belated letter for Mother's Day, that brought happy tears. He is appreciative, loving, grateful, forward thinking and committed to sobriety. He thanked me for being compassionate rather than angry when he got kicked out of the rehab one month in to it. He said because of my reaction, he was able to go back. That is an example of my own recovery.
I didn't rescue, scold, etc. I only asked him how it felt and what his plans were.
His thinking is forward and he has plans to stay the for the one year duration of the program. I don't worry about his future. That is for him to figure out.
Today he is doing well and so am I.
Recovery can happen. It takes hope, faith and patience.
I still believe we have to intervene when possible, because that is how I got him into treatment. Now it is up to him.