That's just more mess other's have made, that I get to clean up.
I don't have to clean up anybody's messes except my own. If you haven't tried Alanon yet, now might be a good time. It helped me learn that I choose who I associate with. I choose what I will and won't put up with. And I choose what path my life takes.
My life is a reflection of the choices I make. When things in my life go awry, the solution is to make new, healthier choices. When my choices lead me to this forum, Alanon is the answer.