Originally Posted by
needtolearn 
I feel like screaming at him, the therapist, myself for believing in him and his lies that he was in recovery, not in active addiction,
URRRRRRRRRGGGGH
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BTW for the readers: I'm not an addict, I'm seeing therapist for depression, and to gain healthy life skills, as is he, though I don't know why he's wasting his time showing up.
In her book "Getting Them Sober" Volume 4-Separation Decisions Toby Rice Drews makes the observation that
many therapists come from dysfunctional backgrounds and their advice for families of alcoholics/addicts can be very suspect. Since the book addresses your particular situation you might want to obtain a copy, unfortunately you might have to order it online, wasn't able to find a bookstore that stocked it.