Originally Posted by
NicTKD 
My wife hadn't been drunk for 5 weeks until yesterday. The forum has helped me undertsand how to control myself and that I have no control over her or her actions. The problem is the deceipt. She told me she only had one can but, as I am sure you know, it's easy to tell that was not true. She was not so drunk that she was not making sense and convinced me that there was no more drink in the house and that to show her some trust, I should go out to TKD as normal.
I did go out but not to the club. I told her I would be back early. Needless to say she was totally out of it by the time I got back.
I was gone for an hour and our 1 yr old boy was asleep when I left and when I got back. I worry for both of them while I am not there. There are together alone one day a week and this is the danger time. She goes to AA, has seen her GP and to be fair is a once in a while binge drinker.
Is there anything else I can do to help her, while not appearing controlling or untrusting?
Well, that is what alcoholics do. That cliche about "only having a couple" is absolutely true, I can remember my STBEX making that comment after I actually
witnessed her consumption on a particular evening, the couple was actually around 7 in a 3-4 hour period with last one being a very stiff mixed drink. There is no way several drinks over a 4 or so hour period can make you smell of alcohol from 4 feet away, and I ran into that on many occasions, she volunteering that she'd only had 'a couple'.
The only real way to help her is to help yourself, we alcoholics didn't stop drinking until the issue become one of life and death or the possibility of losing something forever that we weren't willing to lose. My thoughts go out to you, in the meantime, try Alanon. Oh, and one other thing.
WELCOME!!!