Nope. Can't control her. Can't cure her. It's not within your power.
If she's attending AA, she knows the language of the program. I find it is helpful to ME in dealing with the A in my life to react, talk and deal with him in the language of the program. Even though your wife may not be taking AA to heart right now, if she's there, she's at least getting something.
By talking, reacting and living my life in that "language" I am reinforcing what my A son is learning in AA and his therapy sessions. That is all I can do. The magical result is that I feel better.
gentle hugs