Stronger: I have felt this exact same way ALL day today. I keep thinking maybe if I worked a little harder or accepted my role in all of this (codie - martydom, victimhood, you name it) then STBXAH would want to come back. Then I saw him today when he came to visit the kids, and I remembered WHY we split. He wasn't drunk...he was just being a selfish jerk like always. God reminded me I was on the right path. You have uncovered your own truth right now...that you are willing to take crumbs from this man who is hurting you. Work on fixing that in yourself. You want to be healthy in this relationship or in another or just by yourself for now. Take time to care for you first. There is always time for reconciliation when you are both in recovery, but for now, focus on YOU getting better. (((HUGS))) We are on the same page today.
SailorKaren: You rock! I love the idea of reading the letter and replacing YOU with I. That makes a TON of sense.