Many recovering alcoholics have quality long term relationships, marriages, etc. When we are just getting sober, we are complete train wrecks. In AA, if you follow the steps in recovery you can be able to do everything (drinking aside of course), and anything.
We are all individuals. The actions of one alcoholic does not define the behavior of the "typical" or average behavior of a recovering alcoholic.
I know guys that have done things that you are describing, that are not alcoholics. I did notice that at least he was honest. In my drinking days, I would of just stopped calling a woman when I didn't want to be with them anymore. The honesty shows that he is using the tools AA has given him.
Tom