Hi California
I am relatively new here also. Did you know your husband was an A before you married him? I am engaged to one - and I just discovered he had a drinking problem (well there were signs and I think I chose to ignore them). We are seeking help. Going to our first session today. I know we have a long road ahead.
Perhaps you can answer this question for me - if you knew he as an A before you married him - would you still have married him?
I know what you mean by being weary.. I also feel that way especially with all the worrying and dealing with the monster/idiot he becomes when he is drunk. Thanks for posting. Hope to hear from you soon.
Take care
Caitlyn