Originally Posted by
offhegoes 
and i went in crying...probably looking fool.
I have yet to see a fool cry so I don't think you looked like a fool.
Things you will learn... Some issues in life are our problem that we caused.
What I have seen most every single time...
99% of the problems and issues come from the person that is using.
1% are from a family member that is dealing with a user.
I have seen people take that 1% and then try to take on the guilt of the 99%.
If you go to the IOP meetings and Anon meetings for you.. you should leave his issues at home. You don't need carry around his guilt. When he is ready, he will pick up his own issues and deal with them himself.