(((Rozied)))
Lots of good support and advice above.
I have to agree with Ann. YOU do not have to be the one he depends on when he gets out. My dad has always loved and been supportive of me, but I'm learning the huge lessons I need to learn because he steps back and lets me deal with my consequences.
I do live with him, but I pay rent and it helps us both out. If I use....I am out, no questions asked.
When we addicts figure things out on our own, it not only gives us confidence but can be a big deterrent to going astray again. Letting him fend for himself doesn't mean you don't love him....it means you love him so much that you let him find his own way, even though it hurts like hell.
Hugs and prayers!
Amy