Diane,
I know how hard it is to let go and let them fall. My daughter has 9 months clean from drugs. She did relapse with alcohol but is doing well again. For me it is still one day at a time. I can't handle more than that. I can't look to the future because the future may not turn out like I expect it should. I always live in fear everyday, but I just try to live in today. I think we become so scarred by the addict that we are never really the same person we once were. I can practice all of the recovery tools in the world but it doesn't change the fact that I am still not the same and never will be.
Live for today and take care of yourself.
Hugs......................Lo