RUN, DON'T WALK to the nearest 12 step meeting which means Al Anon or Nar Anon.
In my Al Anon group there are people whose loved one does drugs, drinks alcohol, takes pills, does some of this and some of that. And we couldn't care less about what your person does. What we, as recovering Anon people are there for, is to recover from our own issues that the disease of addiction in our family has brought to light.
So don't strain at gnats....just get yourself to a meeting. Face to face meetings, along with the board, have saved my life and sanity. I'll say it til the day I die. I wouldn't take $1,000,000 for what the 12 step program has taught me.
Hugs,
Hangin' In