Scrubbs....My Dad is an alcoholic as well and the funny thing about it is that I didn't get it. In hind site I think my mother must have been one award winning enabler! But when my own life burst into flames I started looking backward and ...mmmmm....you think there might be a connection??
My brother was an out of control partier,(he was killed in a car accident with a 12 pack and a bag of pot in the car a the age of 21). My first husband was a drunk/liar/cheat and my second and final husband is more than likely an alcoholic (very functional). It took my son crossing over to get my attention. It is hard for me to believe that denial goes any deeper than mine was. I was under the impression (this seems hysterical to me now) that my whole family was wacko and I was normal! Alcoholism is truely a family disease and, Scrubbs, do what you can to take care of yourself NOW. Or it will sneak up behind you somewhere in your life!
And to you Kid......when you are considering staying or leaving, consider this...you take yourself with you. All the issues that got you involved in an alcoholic relationship will simply follow you into your next relatonship and the next. In my crisis I wanted to run but that thought kept me home and after the dust settled and I was stronger I was able to stay. I detached...alot...and not always wth love (we aren't perfect). But one day after alot of work I was able to return emotionally to my marrage. Al anon is truely an amazing place! My husband still drinks too much and my son keeps kicking his bottom out to go lower.
I also identify with that loneliness when my husband is drunk and unavailable...I don't think that I have heard that in words before. That is the worst part. It's like he just checks out and the next night he never remembers what we talked about...totally annoying! I am not fond of naming an A, I think that is their job, but I am just now realizing that my husband probably is....
I have checked out other sites and so far I am loving this one! Luv, Tired