This is such an important element in any good relationship yet it's not something many people are able to discuss openly and honestly. It's certainly not something I've heard discussed at my face-to-face meetings, although I'm sure there are meetings/places where it's been a topic.
I just remember being so confused, frightened, turned off, lonely, and of course I didn't have anyone I could talk to about all of it... and there were times that my A and I had some big darn fights about sex. I can look back at those moments and realize that they really weren't about sex at all... but it was all tangled up in what we were going through~ which was a marriage affected by the disease.