As an "A", I need to say that in our program, we are usually advised to wait at least one year before making any major relationship changes. There are very good reasons for this, one of them being that you have to put your recovery first for awhile.
Marriage is a big step and not always in the right direction if one partner is not ready. I think that in this case, it is possible that neither of you is ready. You have stated yourself that you are not prepared for this commitment at this time and you should honor this feeling. For your own sake, don't marry if you're not ready. And think twice about anyon who would advise you otherwise.
As for your partner, if he is in recovery, he will need to get serious about doing some work to change the behaviors that made him drink in the first place. Marriage would only compound the issues he will have to work through because it will take his focus off of his program.
Every situation is different, though. I think that ultimately it boils down to what you are ready and willing to do. I say follow your heart. Don't pressure yourself to take on something that you're not sure you want. Go easy on yourself right now. I think you already know your answer.
Keep us posted, okay? Take care of you!
P.S. Thanks again for the just for fun post you did...I was laughing at those jokes all day!
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