Hi Rose. .as we learn in Alanon the focus has to be on You. .what you can handle . .what you can do for yourself in your situation.
.I find that when I wait or want the addict/alcoholic to make some move towards recovery. .I am really putting my energies and expectations into a very shaky unhealthy place. .(I have done it hundreds of times
)I am a slow learner. .
I recall from your previous post how you
agreed to have your husband return home providing he not drink and get a job. .then he proceeded to look for a job at a pace you didn't approve of.. didn't drink (until recently) and still no job. . nothing is going to change unless the alcoholism gets dealt with. .no job. .no sanity. .no peace.
for You!!!
Take care Marvelous Maureen (new moniker)