I am so sorry to hear about your mom, (((((HUGS))))) I really don't have any answers except that you and your family need to take care of yourselfs....I am a alcohalic and have 2 boys 7 and 10.....I have been sober now for 9 days......I had to reach to the point of giving up the alcohal on my own.....although I want to be sober for my boys....My mother was a alcohalic as well, and she didn't stop.....I am glad you have your dad for support.....I do hope you get some good answers for your post.....just know you are in my thoughts and prayers.....I hope the drs. at the hospital gave your family some good support groups to attend........