I think the numbness will go away over time. One thing that I have dealt with in regard to my husband's path to recovery is that me becoming distant from him and withholding my love and support from him does not help. He needs me, my love, my support, even if I have to bite my lip sometimes and give him a hug, even when I'm having a bad day and am dealing with anger issues. It helps me in the end, as well.
Just because you are giving love does not mean you are condoning what he has done. You are just telling him that you are there for him and you want to help him through this.
I think the more alone people feel through the recovery process, the harder it is. But, that is just me.
