GiveLove

so, supporter, read this again.
Did you cause his alcoholism? Could you just turn it off, like flipping a switch? Did you have the power to cure him, to make him stop drinking? You were willing to be loyal to him, but he needed to have multiple partners and you made the best choice for yourself and your own life.

This is not your fault. Be sad, grieve the loss of this person, but throw out the guilt. It's not yours to bear: his death is a consequence of his own choices, not yours.

Hugs
GL

p.s WantsOut, when someone does a search they find topics both new and old. If one seems super helpful, they often jump to reply without checking the date. It's not done on purpose....and like gringa said, sometimes it's helpful to someone else. I personally don't find it disruptive; even a problem posted five years ago can be educational today.