I also think the addict resents us for their feelings. For example, I remember going to my daughter's psychologist appointment with her (her suggestion, not mine). In that session she turned on me and said, that I was her problem and only problem. It took me a long time to really understand what that meant as I took it way too personally. What she meant and I understand now is that when she was around me, it was not so easy to use drugs because she would be overwhelmed with guilt as to how she was hurting me. Being around me, she could see the worry and the pain that her illness was causing me. Today I understand that it was not about me, it was about her. And I also realize that if she is to get better, she must do it her way and without me hovering over her with that sense of worry, anxiety and doom. Hugs, Marle