Frankly,
You are so right about her manipulating me. She can play me like a fiddle. I have gotten a lot smarter though. I was just telling my sister that Jen will always find an enabler because she is so cute......my sister agreed. Because of the guilt I do have a hard time sticking to my boundaries. That is where the two things that are going on here get intertwined.
I understand you have bad feelings toward you dad for not doing anything after you told him. I just want to hug the precious little girl in you. You're wonderful.