Lobo, Google the Karpman Drama Triangle. It shows how we keep putting ourselves into the position of being abused because we think that we can rescue our kids. It was something that really helped me to understand my part in my daughter's drama. A book that also helped me was "Mothers of Difficult Daughters" because even before addiction, my daughter was so needy and fit the description of the "dependant daughter".Hugs, Marle