It's that front row seat to the drama that really does us in. We are so close we can feel it but we don't get to write the script or direct the actors and the front row seat is really the worst seat in the house.
Your thoughts are all rational and recovery filled, read what you posted and your doubts may fade.
You want respect and peace in your home...a healthy way to live.
You don't want to watch her destroy herself or make bad choices...we can't control it but we don't have to allow ourselves to be victimized by it either.
You set boundaries and stuck to them...way to go Lobo!!!
What might be anger early in recovery has turned to compassion...another healthy way to live. You know it's the addiction talking badly to you, you can detach with love and care what happens to her...and still let go and let God.
No advice from me today, it sounds like you're on a good track and just a little sad at clearing the debris.
Hugs and prayers for you and extra prayers for your daughter.