((Lobo))
When we have them at home, it becomes frustrating to see that they can't control their addiciton, nor can we. The futility of it all produces anxiety that becomes unbearable.
I was right where you are, just two months ago. I realized that my son could not live in my house any longer. It was making me crazy and I couldn't cope with the person I became. As his addiction progressed so did my anxiety.
Regaining our own serenity, stability and normalcy has to take a priority with us.
Focusing on them recovering will drive us crazy. That is for them to focus on when they are capable. Until that time, they have to live the consequences.
It is difficult not to feel bad about this situation, but you can't beat yourself up about it.
It sounds like it is time for you both to move on without sharing a home.
It may well be what is best for her too.