Thread: Her "Recovery"
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Old 03-25-2008, 09:37 AM
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x02034
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Hi everyone. Thank you for all the kind thoughts and replies.

Just wanted to clarify one thing - the other bed in which I spent the night was in our spare bedroom. Infidelity is not in the picture.

Aside from that, we spent a few hours together with a counselor yesterday, and it is clear that we have some differences. She's confident in her program, and I know that I need to really begin one (more than just a meeting now and then.)

The counselor asked her one question that really hit home though. "At what level do you love him?" Her response, "I love him as a person." Not quite what I was looking for. We agreed that neither of us has felt "loved" in the passionate/utopian marriage sense in quite some time.

I love her as more than a "person," but wondering now if I'm just hanging on for selfish reasons - i.e. not wanting to start all over again.

Ugh.
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