Hey x.....welcome to SR. I'm glad to hear that you are going to Alanon and a counselor to get help for YOU. That's wonderful news.
About being right......that's an interesting topic. I guess one way to deal with it would be to let her be right.....even when she's wrong ;-) Respectfully agree to disagree.
I'm sorry to hear that you are dealing with alcoholism with your wife. It is such a terrible disease and undermines relationships and lives. Keep working your own recovery and do what YOU need to do for YOU. It's amazing but sometimes it is the best thing you can do to help the alcoholic in your life.
gentle hugs