Hi Chiva, I do hear you. One of my friends has expressed the same thoughts. My concern when I think seriously about ending my marriage, is that I will still be unhappy afterwards. My deepest fear is that the problem is within me. I have reason to think this, because I was rarely happy before I married. Yes my husband has some serious issues and we disagree about most things. And maybe we will need to separate. I want to make sure that I am not the problem. I want to learn to be happy.
I started the Alanon progam this past Feb. I have decided to give myself until the end of this year to learn to be happy in this situation. If not I will pursue divorce.