Nope...no compromise, not this time. And I have done what your daughter did...on almost every occasion. I am not silly enough to sit back and wait for him to blow it...because he will. I am more than happy to make suggestions. But in the past I have made the reservations...and even packed for us both, gassed up the car, washed it and ushered his protesting butt out the door without his lifting a finger. When I turned 40, I said "this is where I am going...do you want to come?" Very enlightened...I don't feel like being enlightened this time...
He can golf if he wants...but I will celebrate my birthday with his credit card wherever I want ON my birthday....and deal with the fallout after that.
Not angry...just the facts Mam!!