Drained...I'm trying so hard not to say this but I just have to ........
Well, bless his heart.
Ya know, Drained, it takes two to tango. It's not all him and it's not all you.
Look at the word "blame". You take the "bla bla bla" out of it and all you have left is "me". If your husband ever grasps recovery, TRULY gets recovery, he'll see that.
I realized when my AD was in the "blame game" all I could do was keep my side of the street clean and refuse to get sucked into the aruging or defending myself.
A great statement to remember when blaming comments are hurled your way:
"I'm sorry you feel that way." And leave it at that.
I'm proud of you for taking a good look at you. No one knows if that will save the marriage, but it sure will help save you. And that's what recovery is all about.
Hugs and prayers,
Hangin' In