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Old 03-05-2008, 07:27 PM
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Just needing a quick reality check....

I had been doing really well dealing with moving out of my shared apt with my ex, I've been moving forward career wise, enrolled in two classes toward my graduate degree (which I'm scheduled to complete in December!), booked a vacation, etc... I was really proud of myself for moving on and regaining my life.

Today, though, has been particularly hard. I'm not totally sure why. Last week he stole my credit card and maxed it out, so I've kind of been "sucked" back into his world in having to deal with that (a police report has been filed and charges have been disputed with the credit card company...). I guess I'm just feeling like I did everything right - everything I needed to do to remove him from my life, and I just can't get away.
To top it off, my family has had a lot of medical problems, my mom went into the hospital not long after I moved home and was there for over a month - she just got home this week. She's recovering from some major surgery now. My dad is also recovering from an even more major surgery from a few months back.
This past weekend, I finally dragged myself to go through the boxes that were, literally, thrown together when I moved out with about an hour's notice. It was hard to see pictures of the happy times, and then, to make matters worse, found some pill shells in the bottom of a box - the casing to the perc caplets he would pull apart and sniff....

I'm just feeling myself going back to the way I felt before I left him. I felt like I was doing SO well at being ME again. Going out with girlfriends on the weekends, planning vacations, etc. I know it's a long road, and there are going to be ups and downs, but I just feel like I lost that light at the end of the tunnel. I left, I cut all ties, I did everything I could to remove myself from his world, and he still manages to come up with my credit card number and max it out.... I still have no idea how he did it - all my mail is being forwarded, I have my card with me.... Who knows, he probably copied it down months ago and was holding on to it for a rainy day....

Thanks for letting me vent.... I'm just feeling frustrated and knocked down... Any words of encouragement would be appreciated....
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