How do you stop when all you have been is a mother and a caretaker. I gave myself up when I gave birth. I put her first. Maybe a big mistake. I am a caretaker and a people pleaser. I don't know how to put myself first. If the "others" aren't happy I don't know how to be happy. It is all my fault. I have taken care of my mother in her old age and now husband with both legs amputated. I want something for myself but I don't know how to go about doing it.