Hi...welcome to SR. You'll find tons of folks who have been or are where you are now. I'm so sorry you are in this situation. Keep reading posts and the "stickies" at the top of the page...they are great help. If you can find those Alanon or Naranon meetings, please go...the face to face support is amazing. He will probably attend AA or NA..The "anons" are for the friends and family of addicts. Unfortunately, we become kinda of sick too as we get sucked into the drama and insanity of living with active addiction. Because we loose trust, we start snooping and spying and following and controlling...it can really impact our physical and emotional health. So our program helps us to learn how to take the focus off the addict and onto ourselves so we can start to heal. Glad you found us! Hugs