Payoff. When I struggle with a defect, my current sponsor asks, “What’s the payoff?” In other words, since I’m having a hard time letting it go, “What’s still good about it?”
I struggle with this one ALL the time.
What's the payoff? Sometimes I just want to feel righteous indignation for awhile longer. That's why I hold onto resentments.
What's the payoff? Sometimes I want to feel needed. That's why I continue to meddle in my sons' business and in their decisions. I also want to feel superior & smart. I can make better decisions than they can. (:rof)
So, when looking at why you hold onto some of your character defects...
What's the payoff?